We’ve developed a number of principles to support the generation of healing and hope in groups. This article explores…
Principle #1: Healing is an increase in the degree of truth expressed in your life.
This happens when we live so that our words are aligned with our actions, and the values we speak show up in how we live.
It’s important to note that when we speak of truth, we’re talking about what is true for us at any given moment. This knowledge is available to every living thing and you don’t need a Ph.D. When we are not living in alignment, we feel off. We sense it in our bodies. Suppress what’s true for long enough and physical ailments will follow. Ailments like anxiety, depression, chronic fatigue, cancer, etc.
Steve’s story of inner alignment
While working as an engineer in the defense industry in my mid-30’s, I began experiencing increasing levels of fatigue. While I began experimenting with conventional and alternative approaches to healing my body, deep down, I knew something more fundamental was at play. I would often describe my day-to-day work as “soul-sucking.” It seemed and felt destructive to me no matter how well I or my peers tried to rationalize otherwise.
As a hopeful dreamer from a young age, I yearned to contribute to the advancement of humanity…to be doing something meaningful, creative, and constructive with my life. In meditative moments, I would sometimes hear an inner voice that said, “When you are doing what you were built to do, you will have all the energy you need to do it.” This felt true for me, and scary too. I lived in a remote desert town built around the industry for which I worked. How would I survive if I left it?
That question was answered over many years of searching and moving one small step after the next toward doing what I was put here to do. It was a gradual journey of re-aligning with myself…my soul.
Relevance: Facilitation as an Act of Forgiveness.
Some of the most insidious misalignments we experience come from the inside. That is, the judgments we hold against ourselves. All judgments ultimately resolve into the lie that, “Something is wrong with me (or you).” And judgments about others are merely projections of self-judgment, the healing of which comes by forgiveness, primarily self-forgiveness.
We continue to find in our training courses that participants lack self-confidence, sometimes to the point of self-loathing. In other words, severe self-judgment. We remember once telling a class that, “There is nothing wrong with you.” The room went absolutely silent and we could feel that it struck a strong chord.
The combination of self-judgment and resulting lack of confidence too often has good people sitting on their hands, not speaking out and taking the actions they know are being called for. Instead, they stay stuck in fear.
Application: Have the Courage to Forgive
The first step toward living in alignment with your truth is to let go of the negative thoughts about ourselves…our self-judgments. They are not true and do not deserve our attention. Nearly everyone is feeling the pain and loneliness of self-alienation that comes from not accepting ourselves as we are.
While this may sound like a small and insignificant act, it is not. Relaxing the pointing finger of: “you’re not enough” can be like removing the proverbial finger from the dam…releasing a lifetime of dammed up energy.
Meet your own thoughts of self-judgment with forgiveness. How do we forgive? We let go of the negative thought. If another one comes, and it will, we let that go too. We replace these thoughts with a sense of love for ourselves; the same feeling of love you might offer your hurting child, spouse, or pet.